By definition, toxic tendencies create a toxic environment: Poisonous, deadly, lethal, noxious, contaminated, and venomous. You get the point. Really, folks, it’s no fun at all for anyone –the person with the toxic tendency and the recipients of the harmful behaviors. It’s what we call joy-squelching at its best.
Repeat after me: I can do better. I can feel better. Just like Stewart Smalley: I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me.
To feel there is purpose and meaning to one’s time, actions and life, and to feel self-worth
This toxic tendency is about extremes. Nothing is good, everything is bad. The world is falling apart. There exists very little moderation with this tendency. This person seems to have almost no boundaries and shares information that may be uncomfortable for others to receive. Someone with this tendency talks endlessly – an external stream of consciousness. While this individual may at times have a lot of energy, his lows are as low as his highs are high. Nothing is done in moderation –the extremes range from energy (I’m so tired I can’t possibly function today), sickliness (I was SO sick last night that I thought I puked out my small intestine!), world views (this world is so messed up, and we are all doomed), society (kids have no idea how easily they have it these days –they’re hopeless) and people (people suck). You’ll be hungry, but that person will be starving. You’ll be upset, but they will be having the worst day in the history of history. There’s no beating this tendency’s story, because his experience will always and absolutely be bigger, worse, more compelling, etc etc etc.
The attitude of The Extremist is that of ….moody. This individual swings so easily from one mood to the next that those who work around him do not know what to expect from one day to the other.
The upswing? On those days you’re feeling miserable, you have company.
Words used to describe this tendency include: Moody, pessimist, negative, and drama queen
The core behavior with this tendency: Absolute Thinking
The core feeling for one engaging in this tendency: Fear
The core human need for one engaging in this tendency: Well-Being
In some cases, the Guilt Tripper seems to get exploited for her helpfulness, but that is not necessarily the case. Somehow someway she likely thrives on feeling used and abused. She is also likely to be a self-guilt tripper meaning: She sees situations that couldn’t have been prevented as her fault. She has a tendency to be the self-indulged self-assuming scapegoat in the group. Blame simply has to be placed somewhere, and she will pick up the tab if no one else does.
Word used to describe someone with this tendency include: Chronic complainer, irritable, defensive, victim mentality, unhelpful, and resistant
Cheers to all who aim to live in harmony and peace to those who choose otherwise,